Theresa Frances Duffy
Sep 29, 1931 – Jul 15, 2014
Theresa “Frances” Duffy, age 82 passed away peacefully on Tuesday, 07/15 in Federal Way. Frances is survived by her sons, Greg (Terri), David (Louann) and James Duffy; daughters, Rosemary (Sam) Bechara and Valerie Morris; (12) grandchildren; (5) great-grandchildren; sisters, Philo Mitchell, Gertrude Hutchings and Barbara Russo; brother, Patrick Cleary; numerous nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by her husband, Leo in 2003.
Frances was born September 29th 1931 in St John’sNewfoundland to parents Augustine Michael Cleary and Mary Margaret Warren. She was the 3rd of 10 children. A large extended family of Aunts, Uncles and cousins surrounded her as well. Large gatherings of family and friends were the norm for her while growing up. Close family ties made for plenty of spirited revelry and song. Music played a big part in Mom’s life. Her love of music is something she passed on to all her children. Singing in church and on Newfoundland radio shows were joys of her youth.
Faith, love and family were the cornerstones of Mom’s life. Those three simple beliefs were how she led her life. She met, fell in love and married American Serviceman Leo F. Duffy Jr and moved to SeattleWashington in the 1950’s. Together they raised their 5 children and settled down in Federal Way. For the next 50 years Frances and her husband built a life together guided by those cornerstone values. Through life’s journeys and struggles they always had each other and the faith and values from which she never wavered.
Frances was a stay at home Mom. This is an underappreciated and often overlooked job. Daily life’s duties were tireless and never ending while raising 5 children during turbulent times in a new country. She was the person who got things done……all day….every day. She cooked meals, kept the house, managed the money and took care of the children. She was also an emotional touchstone and sanctuary for anyone looking for the loving comfort that only a Mother provides. Plenty were the times a friend of one of the children sat at the dinner table or stayed in her home and was treated as member of the family.
How lucky to be a child (or adult) in the care of Mom. Her greatest gifts to her children were her love, tenderness and her ability to forgive. With Mom you always knew where home was. No matter what your circumstance, you could always go home. If you’re aching heart needed mending or you celebrated a great accomplishment. If you needed a reminder of what was most important in a world that could be at times unforgiving, you always went home.
Home truly is where the heart is. She loved the company of her husband, family and friends. Warm hugs and kisses were the greeting in the Duffy house. You knew you were loved. Her grandchildren and her great grandchildren had it even better. Mom loved the babies. She was a natural caregiver. It was what she was put on earth do to. She spent a lifetime never losing her faith in any of those values she was taught early on as a young girl growing up in a large loving family. On Tuesday Mom went to be with Dad. Her legacy is of the Christian values she stood for all her life. She passed these on to her children, grandchildren and grand grandchildren. These are the greatest gifts. They will live on in the hearts, minds and deeds of those who loved her most. We miss you Mom. If only we could have just one more hug and kiss. Heaven must be beaming with pride to welcome such a kind and gentle soul. Dad finally has his best girl back. We love you.
There will be a Rosary on Friday, 07/25 at 7:00 pm at St. Vincent DePaul Catholic Church. Funeral Mass will be celebrated on Saturday, 07/26 at 1:00 pm at St. Vincent DePaul Catholic Church, 30525 – 8th Avenue S., Federal Way. This is the church Mom and Dad attended for their entire adult lives. It is fitting that they send her home. All friends of our family are welcome to attend. Thank You.
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