Kirby Grant Dahman
Nov 14, 1951 – May 8, 2016
Kirby Grant Dahman died peacefully at home on May 8, surrounded by his wife, son and immediate family.
Beginning last fall, Kirby had suffered from a series of debilitating symptoms that were finally diagnosed as the rare Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease, just 10 days before his death.
He is survived by his loving wife of 37 years, Laurie, his son Will Grant, sister Karen Dahman, brother Ross Dahman (Nancy Laster), sister-in-law Jane Stockert (David), nieces Clare Ross(Chad), Kate Stockert (Greg Goldstein), Elizabeth Weckel, and brother-in-law, Howard Weckel.
Kirby was born on Nov 14, 1951 to Dorothy Simon and William Hruska Dahman in St Louis, MO. He graduated from John Burroughs High School and went on to The California Institute of Technology to complete a degree in Mathematics.
While pursuing an advanced degree at the University of Illinois, Kirby met his future wife, Laurie Weckel. They were married in 1978, and relocated to Tucson, Arizona in 1980, where Kirby began his 36 year career with IBM.
During their 24 years in Tucson, Kirby and Laurie relished desert life, becoming part of a treasured community. They were active in hiking, local politics and their church, St Philips in the Hills Episcopal Church. In 1993, the addition of their beloved son Will made their lives complete.
At IBM, Kirby excelled in a variety of technical leadership positions, starting as a Programmer, and ending as a Senior Technical Staff Member. In 2004 Kirby, Laurie, and Will made the move to Seattle WA, primarily to be near family. During the past twelve years in Seattle, Kirby worked from home, communicating with engineers from all parts of the globe on a daily (and nightly!) basis. He had recently accepted a position as an Architect with Cloud Managed Services, and at the time of his death he was in the application process for his 35th US Patent. He also held 74 global issued patents.
Living in Seattle allowed Kirby to indulge in his love of being on the water with many a fishing excursion in the little 15 ft fishing boat, The Osprey, taking direction from Will about where to find the elusive salmon. There were also lazy summer days watching the cruise ships head out to sea, and more recently aboard his brother in law’s boat, Incredible, on Lake Washington.
Kirby took delight in Laurie’s artwork, the accomplishments of others (especially those of his beloved Will and nieces), vacationing in the San Juan Islands, entertaining family and friends, participating in Bible Study at Church of the Ascension, attending the Pacific Northwest Ballet, viewing meaningful films, reading mathematics, and a sipping a good glass of red wine or any drink with a blue hue. He was also dedicated to supporting social justice causes, believing in the essential goodness and value of everyone.
Most of all, Kirby loved being with his family – those who were related by blood and those who became related by the heart. His was a completely unselfish and unconditional love for all of God’s creation.
Donations may be made in Kirby’s name to The National Prion Disease Center, SHARE/WHEEL of Seattle (homeless services), or Church Council of Greater Seattle. (peace/justice advocacy)
With all kinds of opportunities to tell people what to think, he instead told them what to do. Wash feet. Give your stuff away. Share your food. Favor reprobates. Pray for those who are out to get you. Be the first to say, “I am sorry.” (Barbara Brown Taylor)
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