Raymond H. Clarke, Jr.

Dec 7, 1948 – Apr 27, 2015

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Raymond H. Clarke, Jr.

12/7/48 – 4/27/15

After a lifetime of chronic pain, Ray, retired locksmith, passed peacefully to re-unite with his parents Margaret & Ray Sr. & sister Peggy. In 7 days, a firestorm of cancer burst through all his defenses. 

Wife Heidi, daughter Emily & brother Charlie are left behind, he took this trip alone.  He loved us, Always “A man’s a man, who looks a man, right between the eyes”. 


Vashon, Wa
May 8, 2018

There is not a year gone by that I don't pause to remember Ray. His love, his dedication to his family. More so, to my friend, his wife, Heidi. His easy going nature, that easy grin, his deep chuckle, that twinkle in his eye when another of Heidi' s adventures is mentioned. He absolutely glowed about his darling daughter Emily. His patience, generosity of time. His creative nature. A quiet, resilient rock to so many in spite of his constant pain. Ray was a good man gone too soon.

Debbie Griswold
Redmond, Wa
Jun 2, 2015

May 13, 2015

Well I tell you I will Miss that Big Guy, and kissing that bald head of his when ever I would visit him and Heidi. Ray was always so very good to me and I'm a better person just for knowing him and Heidi, for those too together where a joy to watch. You could always see how devoted Ray was to Heidi and the love, respect ,consideration, they always showed to one another. Ray was one of the smartest men I knew, It seemed he could do anything, from jewelry to wood work, he was such a creative guy. For one thing his bird houses hanging on his garage, well I tell you birds never had a finer home. I was fortunate once to take a trip to Hawaii with Heidi and Ray. I could tell he loved it so much his pain seemed less there. I will miss his wit and his laugh now, he is now out of pain and forever young. Thank You Ray Man for always giving me so much kindness and your friendship. You are forever missed but always alive in our hearts. You where such an honest good man. With such good memories of the man you where. Love always to Heidi and Em for sharing the big guy with me. XoX Debbie

Linda Olsen Engel
Gull Lake, Mn
May 26, 2015

Linda Olsen Engel: Linda wrote: "Sigrid Solheim, Heidi Solheim Clarke, Emily Clarke and all your family: sympathies from your MN relatives at this sad time. I am so glad I had the chance to meet this man a few years back! I enjoyed his sense of humor. Cousin Dotti Knight wants me to add condolences from her as well."

Catarina Bernstein
Riverdale, Md
May 26, 2015

I am so very saddened to hear about Ray. I wish there is something that can be done, but cancer is just so damned awful. I am so sorry. All my love to you, Ray and Emily, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Joe Ulu
Seattle, Wa
May 26, 2015

I love that guy.

Nils Bernstein
New York, NY
May 26, 2015

Nils Bernstein : Ray had a massive impact on me; Per said recently that he was our masculine role model and I think in a lot of ways that's true. I feel like I spent my young life in rebellion (in a good way), but Ray gave a context to it, that you could live 'anti-authoritarian' but be a father and husband and 'normal' person. I think about him so often. Please let me know if there's anything I can do. Love Nils

Astrid Heidal
Nordtvietgrend, Nw
May 26, 2015

Astrid Heidal : What is to be said? Asbjørn and I have talked about it again and again, we have to go! Everybody has to, and nobody knows who must go first!

I am so glad to meet Ray! Yesterday a Nice memory and feeling came to me,: His hug - warm, big hug from the big, big man rubbing his red beard into my face! Wonderful!!

Math 11.28 Come unto me you who has Heavy burdens - I will give you rest.

We pray again for Ray, you and Emily!! Love, love , love!!

Beth Rose
Castle Rock, Wa
May 26, 2015

Beth Rose: to ray from beth (Heidi's xoxo att friend).... I will forever remember your bear hugs, ray. the smiles, your favorite tv show on the tube and lovely dinners shared on new years eve. Heidi and em love you so much and

it comes through to me.... so I love you, too.

Burien, WA
May 26, 2015

I want to enter some of the messages received in the short time between Ray's diagnosis and his death. I read them often and want to share some of them :

Per Bernstein : It was so fun staying at your house as kids. Uncle Ray always had games and fun things for a kid to discover for the first time whether it was Atari or a motorcycle or a waterbed or a cool car or a rope swing or an old viewfinder (or your mean cat that was fun to snuggle with in your sleeping bag) but it was always an adventure. He was so cool because he seemed like one of us, a big kid, smiling and making sure we were having fun. He was a big influence on me as far as what being a "man" was supposed to be--that you could be grown but still have fun. Getting older didn't seem so scary when you saw how Uncle Ray was living. I'll miss him.

Pam Odegard
Burien, Washington
May 16, 2015

So sorry for your loss Heidi and Em. I have enjoyed reading the messages and feel like I have a better understanding of the man you called husband and father. One step at a time. With the love and support of your family and friends.

Joyce Guzdar
Seattle, WA - Washington
May 14, 2015

Heidi and Emily

It was always great when Ray could make it to any of our gatherings. He did always have the smile that made you remember him, even though he was a man of few words he made an impact on people. He will be missed.

karen kwolek
seattle, wa
May 14, 2015

they don't make men like u anymore RIP please give the Mrs a sign ...

Sharon Campbell
Kent, WA
May 14, 2015

The world will miss you, Ray Clarke. A smile that lights up your whole face, a deep love for your family. You even smiled through your years of pain. Always friendly and interested in others. Always the mellow "Cool Dude". We will all miss you.

Heidi and Emily, I wish you peace and hope you find comfort in the knowledge of Ray's enduring love for you.

Sharon Campbell

Vickie Hollaway
Burien, WA
May 14, 2015

After knowing Ray, as long as I've known Heidi, over 35 years, I've never seen him without that smile on his face. When I think of him, I think of a gentle giant ( course everyone's a giant to me ). Let the memories speak for themselves....always with fondness. So sorry for your loss, Heidi and Em.

Pam & Rob Kedenburg
Olympia, WA
May 10, 2015

Sending thoughts of love and support to you and Emily. Find comfort in your good memories and your love for each other.

Heidi Clarke
Burien, WA
May 5, 2015

even Pictures

Heidi Clarke
Burien, WA
May 5, 2015

Ray took events and people at face value, he never looked for a hidden agenda. He was often disappointed. He continued to speak his mind and thought he drove people away. If only the nice things people have said now, had been said to him, not about him, he would have been surprised and flattered.

Ray had friends from every corner of life, friends from his high school years and friends of Emily's age.

His interests were varied, cars & marijuana of course, wood working, jewelry making, religions of all sorts, and what ever Em & I were doing to name a few.

I'd be interested in know more of what others remember about Ray. For now, kick back and enjoy a little, Miles Davis, Jimi Hendrix, Richie Havens, Ravi Shankar, Crosby Stills Nash & Young, even Pavarotti .

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