Darcie D. Sims

May 20, 1947 – Feb 27, 2014

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Darcie D. SIMS, PhD., CHT, CT, GMS

Died at home on 2/27/14.  She is preceded in death by her parents, and her infant son, Austin “Big A.”  

Darcie wore many hats in her short time on this earth.  She was a mother, wife, grandmother, educator, leader, rose colored glasses wearer, smile on a stick carrier and friend.  She was an internationally recognized public speaker on the topic of Grief and Bereavement.  Darcie taught thousands of people all over the world how to cope with their grief.  She was awarded a lifetime achievement award, “The Voice of The Compassionate Friends” for her tireless efforts supporting families who cope with the death of a child.  Her work for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, TAPS, since 199 was described as, “She will forever live in the hearts of thousands of grieving military families.”   Darcie and her husband have lived in the Seattle area since 2005. 

 She is survived by her husband of 44 years, Robert “Tony” Sims, daughter, Alicia “Allie” Franklin, granddaughter, Darci Franklin, son-in-law, Greg Franklin and sister, Deborah Switzer of Enid, OK.

The family has asked that in lieu of flowers, a donation be made to The Compassionate Friends National Office in support of the Darcie Sims Memorial Training Fund, www.compassionatefriends.org

 Memorial service 1:00 PM, Tuesday, March 4, 2014 at Bonney-Watson Washington Memorial, 16445 International Blvd, SeaTac. 

Please sign the online memorial guestbook at www.bonneywatson.com.


Kelley Wheat-Rivers
Wilmington, NC
Apr 7, 2015

I'm heartbroken. I'm currently utilizing the "Walking Through Grief" series featuring Darcie for bereavement support in my hospice. I had the good fortune to meet her few years ago and she drastically changed my life. The legacy she leaves will continue for such along time. My her soul be at rest and may her family be surrounded by love and support.

Stephanie Walters
Sacramento, Ca
Apr 4, 2015

I've been thinking about Darcie a lot lately.

I was lucky enough to hear her speak several times, and she personally helped me with questions about how to help my very young grieving daughters.

I can point to Darcie as directly responsible for how healthy my family has become in the years since we met her

Our world is immeasurably better for having had her in it.

Paraclete Press
Orleans, MA
Dec 18, 2014

Darcie was a generous and loving woman - we were so blessed to have worked with her on a DVD that she did with Paraclete Press - Footprints on our Hearts: How to Cope After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Newborn Death - a DVD that has helped thousands of families recover after a devastating loss.

Our prayers go out to all her family and loved ones - requiescat in pace.

Paraclete Press

Darci Franklin
Seattle, WA
Aug 20, 2014

To some Darcie Sims was an inspiration, a guiding light, a source of hope. To me, she was my grandma, the person who gave me cookies for dinner and took me to movies on the weekends, the person who could fix anything with the flick of her magic wand. I had the privilege to see her speak many times and I saw how she helped people, my grandmother was so proud of me but I was even more proud of her. I am glad to share a name with her, and I hope I can continue to uphold the honor of the name. My grandma wasn't just my grandma, she was my hero.

Catherine Dufourmentel
Paris (France), aa
Aug 1, 2014

Dear friends,

I've just got the news (The Director July Issue). I can't believe that my dear Darcie is gone. She was a mentor to me and a great lady. All my best thoughts to Tony and all the family.


Gerry Hall
Santa Fe, NM
May 14, 2014

Oh...what sad news. I just came to the computer to see where Darcie would be doing presentations. Many years ago she gave me life in my darkness. She will be missed by so many...my heart and thoughts go out to her family.

Cathy Seehuetter
Cottage Grove, MN
May 6, 2014

Now nearly 2 1/2 months later, I still find it hard to believe that this beautiful lady with so much to give is no longer on this earth spreading her own brand of peace, joy, empathy, one-of-a-kind humor, and love. Tony and Allie and family...even when you don't hear from me, I think about you all and your Darcie every day, several times a day. And, Allie, this Mother's Day I'll be holding you close to my heart. Love to you...

Deborah McGrath
Innisfil, ON
May 6, 2014

My sincere condolences to the Sims family and to all who worked with Darcie. I had the distinct pleasure of hearing her speak at two separate 'Kane Days' - a yearly event organized by R.S. Kane funeral home in the Toronto GTA. Darcie was a dynamic speaker and an empassioned presenter. In her speech: 'Tissues and Tears' l laughed about crying, and in her Care for the Caregiver workshop I learned the tools I needed to move forward on my own grief journey. A light has been extinguished on earth, but glows eternally in the sky.

Barbara J. Reboratti
TCF Quakertown, PA
May 5, 2014

With this one sentiment you spoke so many years ago, you lifted me from the abyss of darkness to the light of hope in living and loving again:."Letting go of the pain doesn't mean letting go of the love."

Love you to the moon and back, Darcie.

You are forever in my heart.

Debbie Robinson
Merrimack, NH
Apr 28, 2014

I was fortunate enough to see Darcie speak twice in NH. Her words were powerful and moving and her presence was comforting. Her work lives on in the many she inspired and I wish her family peace.

Joseph Greco
Los Angeles, CA
Apr 12, 2014

I had the pleasure and great fortune of speaking with Darcie about a new movie and she generously provided some wonderful insight as well as provided some beautiful advice as I prepared to fly to Florida to attend to my father who was in hospice in February. I was shocked and sad to hear that Darcie is no longer with us, but consider myself extremely lucky to have had the opportunity to meet her over the phone, albeit briefly. Sending sympathies and condolences to her family.

Kelly Kittel
Portsmouth, RI
Apr 5, 2014

Here I am happily signing up for the upcoming TCF conference in Chicago, checking the box for the banquet dinner, and looking forward to seeing Darcie and hearing her give one of her wonderful, inspiring speeches. I was SO excited when I heard she was coming and SO shocked to see her photo on the website sidebar, thinking it was because she was speaking and then reading the words "in loving memory of..." What? Now I'm sitting here crying my eyes out and my heart has joined with Tony and the throngs who were lucky enough to know Darcy and grieve her passing from our lives.

In November I wrote to Darcie to ask her to blurb my book. And in keeping with her generous spirit, she read it in one day and wrote right back with her endorsement, saying, "Thank you for the privilege of reading your manuscript. I know how hard it is to release your words to the world…in hopes that someone will:

a. like it

b."get it"

c. buy it

d. treasure it

I do all 4 of the aboveJ"

Darcie's words of encouragement arrived on my birthday. They were spot on and the best present ever and I repeated them to myself like a mantra. I was so excited to see her in July and thank her in person.

Darcie lives on on the back cover of my book and I've been passing her words out by the hundreds on my book postcards, which say in part, "The only thing one has to do in the beginning of the journey through grief is to breathe and there are moments and even days when that seems optional."

I pray that her loving family can somehow find the strength to breathe without her in their lives. I know that I'm finding it difficult, myself. But as all bereaved parents know, some of our greatest treasures lies in the great hereafter. I know that Darcie is now holding Austin in her arms and never letting go. And I believe she'll tend to our children until we get there, just as she ministered to us here on earth.

"To live in the hearts of those we leave behind is not to die." Darcie Sims lives on in my heart.

Torie & Michael Lane
Longwood, FL
Mar 31, 2014

We were lucky enough to meet Darcie and attend some of her workshops. The book If I Could Just See Hope has been a life line for us..

We will miss her

Susie Carraro
Louisville, Ky
Mar 29, 2014

Tony, Alicia and Greg,

I just saw this and just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. Always loved you guys. Darcie is surely missed.

Priscilla Norton
West Wareham, MA
Mar 29, 2014

Dear Tony and family,

I am so sorry to learn of Darcie's death.

I first met you and Darcie back in the 70's at one of the 1st TCF Conferences. We have kept in touch through TCF conferences and correspondence. She was an inspiration to everyone she met; especially bereaved parents.

My heart aches for you, Allie, Greg and Deborah. I have a candle burning today in her memory. The soft, gentle glow reminds me so much of her. I'm sure she was carried into heaven on millions of butterfly wings, signifying all the people she touched here on Earth. May she rest in Peace with her precious son, "Big A".

Prayers and thoughts are with you in your grief walk for one amazing wife, mother, grandmother, author, speaker and compassionate lady, Darcie.



Shelley Reason
Sherwood Park, AB
Mar 27, 2014

You amazed me Darcie! You could make people cry from grief one second, and cry from laughter in another! I have never met anyone who could do what you do! You will be greatly missed!

Carey Hinman
West Des Moines, IA
Mar 24, 2014

I am so very sorry to hear of Darcie's death. She was one dynamic lady with a big heart. She made Iowans feel that they had a lot of support when she was around. And, Allie I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I know that it is though because I lost my mom on Mother,s day 2013. Again, my heart goes out to all of you.

Lynn Marziale "Luke's Mom"
Staten Island, NY
Mar 21, 2014

I am soooo sorry to have heard this tragic news so belated!

My heart, hugs, prayers, love and compassion goes out to Darcie's entire family!!!

Darcie will ALWAYS be remembered ... as the woman who made me smile (even in my unbearable sadness!)

Have a piece of chocolate, smile and I AM "Broccoli" !!!!

Sincerest ... and I mean sincerest sympathy for Darcie!

Lynn "Luke's Mom"

Norma Jean KImbel
Martinsburg, WV
Mar 20, 2014

My heart felt thoughts to the family and friends of Darcie. She truly blessed me with her compassion 2 years after my Marjorie died in drowning in 2001, my heart had no where to go and hear someone say that they understood my pain and The Compassionate Friend was my life line.. I am part of a wonderful grief group on Facebook called This is Not My Home over seen by Ann Sobara and Maria Faller. May this wonderful family gain so much through their memories and cherished times with this precious lovely woman of God. Peace and comfort to all who grieve her passing in to New Life with her sweet one she gave back to God. Love, Norma Jean mom to Marjorie Mae Bowen

Rob Anderson
Sugar Grove, IL
Mar 14, 2014

Many years ago at a TCF Regional Conference in Door County, WI, Darcie said words that changed my grief stricken life. "For our kids to have died, it meant they had to have lived first. If we can let go of their dying, and embrace their living, we can get better."

I collected heart shaped rocks as part of my journey at that time. I found one during that conference. I approached Darcie at a meal, got down on one knee and with tears streaming down my face I presented my rock to Darcie. She hugged me fiercely like she did everyone, thanked me, telling me she would have a special place for it on her desk. "Amazing" in all ways describes our sweet Darcie.

Linda R. Santoro
Queens, NY
Mar 12, 2014

I am in tears writing this note. Darcie was the very first person on this earth to make me smile after the death of my 21 year old Son in 1994. She was an AMAZING human being who helped so many people who could not deal with the reality of their children actually being GONE? Forever. She was a gift to us all and

I wish so much that I knew she was sick. I would have done something to let her know how wonderful she truly was. I think she knew, but I would have liked to have been just one more voice to tell her how blessed we were to have her. She was way too young to leave us. I am missing her already. Thank God she is on tapes, so her work here on earth lives on. Darcie, you were so loved by billions. Thank you for your precious open heart. Words can not even begin to express my gratitude of knowing you. You helped me help others too!

Former Manhattan Chapter Leader, Linda R. Santoro

Lisa Baue
St. Charles , MO
Mar 12, 2014

To Tony and all of Darcie's family,

We were so blessed to have Darcie in our funeral home over the years to help us with our Holiday Grief programs. She was a wonderful educator and a speaker that truly touched others hearts.

We send you all our prayers and warm thoughts as you remember this wonderful lady who made a significant impact on so many lives of those who grieve and those of us in funeral service . She will be missed. Lisa Baue and the Staff at Baue funeral homes

Patti Kelleher
Akron, OH
Mar 12, 2014

We thank Darcie for being who she was---one very special lady. She touched many lives by sharing her God given talents. Her legacy will live on forever. The world is truly better because she lived

Laurie Whitham
Bend, OR
Mar 12, 2014

My heart aches for the family of Darcie, the immediate family, and the extended family that she has helped to show the way on the grief path. I first met her at a TAPS seminar at Ft. Lewis, WA after the death of our soldier son, Chase. I was afraid of her! So much life effusing from this woman, when I wasn't sure I could meet her on that level. It was her way of welcoming me in, and not long after the mending began. In a way she knew so well how to express. My husband, who only went along to accompany me, said she was "the best speaker he had ever heard...EVER". She reached his heart too. Thank you Darcie. Blessings and comfort to her family. Have a piece of chocolate in rememberance!

Sharon Bradley
Wetumpka, AL
Mar 11, 2014

I was and still am so sorry that Darcie died. I will never forget the TAPS Survivor Conference she presided over at Fort Benning, Ga. last year. She made all of us who lost our Soldiers feel a little bit better and a little bit stronger. Her wisdom, though born out of pain, will always be remembered. She is with her Son now, cradling him in her arms.

Elaine wiesman
Brentwood, NH
Mar 11, 2014

My thoughts and prayers go out to Darcie's family and friends. I heard Darcie speak four years after my son died when I began my hospice career. I was in awe of her ability to speak about grief so plainly and with appropriately placed humor to break the heaviness of the heart. May you all remember how she could uplift the bereaved without dismissing their grief. Thank you Darcie for all the work you did educating and walking with those in grief.

Barbara Stein
Colchester, IL
Mar 11, 2014

I am so sorry to hear that Darcie is gone. She touched my life the first time at a Special Operations Conference in San Diego. I am a military survivor and it was my second conference. I was still coming to terms with my grief. She brought healing tears and healing widow's humor and laughter when I needed it most. She will be sorely missed. My thoughts and prayers are with Darcie's family. God Bless!

Margie L. Nevins
Kenbridge, VA
Mar 11, 2014

Darcie, Thank you for being one of the most compassionate and wonderful people I have ever met. The world has truly lost one of our best. TCF will miss you and your love but your memory will live on for years. My deepest sympathy goes out to the entire Sims Family for their loss.

Shirley Parks
Tujunga, CA
Mar 11, 2014

Darcie....the words you said that inspired me to keep going on after my son died were "I am not here because my son died. I am here because my son LIVED!".....you had a special gift of bringing laughter into the lives of grieving parents when we thought we'd never laugh again. God bless you and your family.

Shirley Parks

Ruthie Johnson
Greenville , SC
Mar 10, 2014

Darcie encouraged healing laughter. How grateful I am to have experienced her presence.

Sue Adams
Owatonna, Mn
Mar 9, 2014


Thank you showing me that I can continue living. To Darcie's family thank you for sharing her. GOD BLESS YOU!

We will miss you.

Joyce Turner
Gladstone, MO
Mar 7, 2014

To the family of Darcie,

Thank you for sharing your wife, mother and grandmother with us. I saw her at the Good Grief Camps as I lost my son in the war. She was so kind, funny and wise. I believe we Gold Star Family's have lost one we called our own family member. I am terrible upset with her passing but know your pain is deeper and different. God Bless you for sharing her and God Bless you Darcie for being you!!

Patrick O'Donnell
Westland, Mi
Mar 7, 2014

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thank you Darcie for teaching so many to learn they can once again live and love.

Miss ya ,..

Pat O'D

Amy Larson
Spokane, WA
Mar 6, 2014

My condolences to the family of Darcie Sims. I never had a chance to meet her in person, but have been touched by her writings. Her poems will continue to comfort individuals and families and I am most grateful for her writings and how they will carry on her legacy of supporting families in grief.

My heart goes out to you and your family at this difficult time.

Tracy Terry
Lawton, MI
Mar 6, 2014

The world has lost another "Rockstar"-

Amelia M perrotta
Cape Coral, Fl
Mar 6, 2014

My condolences to your family in these difficult time. I lost my husband on Sep. 11 2013.. I had the Honor of reading some of Dardies articles and it has been a blessing.

Thank you for all you did and God bless your family.


sharon kempf
coats, nc
Mar 6, 2014

The world loss a truly special lady and heaven gained another angel. May God comfort and bless her family. RIP Marcie.

Sandi McClure
Elgin, Il
Mar 6, 2014

What a dynamic woman. She has touched the lives of many.

TCF of Calhoun County
Battle Creek, MI
Mar 6, 2014

Darcie was a true blessing to the grief community. For those of us in TCF, she was inspiring and will be dearly missed.

Diana Jordan
Pittsburg, ca
Mar 5, 2014

Thank you Darcie for the laughter and tears, both get us on a healing path. I was blessed to hear you at a few Compassionate Friends conferences and always left with a smile and tears. Thank you so much, God Bless you and your loved ones. Say hello to my sons!

Diana Jordan
Pittsburg, ca
Mar 5, 2014

Thank you Darcie for the laughter and tears, both get us on a healing path. I was blessed to hear you at a few Compassionate Friends conferences and always left with a smile and tears. Thank you so much, God Bless you and your loved ones. Say hello to my sons!

Evelyn McGann
San Pablo, CA
Mar 5, 2014

Thank you Darcie for the peace and comfort you brought to me.

You tought me how to cope with grief. How to survive after the murder of our son and how to laugh again. We will all miss you.

Sabrina Rood
Edmonds, WA
Mar 5, 2014

My heart is thankful for the gifts that Darcie shared with so many and with me. As a bereaved mom and a counselor and doctoral student, I received the gift of meeting Darcie after hearing her speak at our TCF meeting this past fall. I also received a big warm Darcie hug and encouragement and I felt that Darcie was to become a mentor for me in my professional work She encouraged me to finish my dissertation about bereaved parent couples, and she made me promise to contact her this spring. Darcie, you will continue to mentor me from where you are now. Thank you. My heart goes out to Darcie's family and loved ones. What a huge impact she has on our world! Love is what matters and what remains.

Bruce Lund
De Pere, WI
Mar 5, 2014

I only had the opportunity to meet Darcie once but what an experience Darcie. Rest in God's Peace.

Melanie E. Groves
Bridgeport, WV
Mar 5, 2014

I became acquainted with Darcie at the 2012 BPUSA Gathering in Tampa and again in 2013 at the Gathering in Sacramento. I attended one of her workshops in Tampa and learned to take off my "mask" and be the bereaved parent walking around with my string of tissues hanging out of my pockets no matter how long of a string that was! Now I've become a Chapter Leader!

She will be missed! Prayers to Tony & the family!

God Bless

Melanie Groves

Chapter Leader

North Central WV Chapter of Bereaved Parents USA

Matthew Groves
Bridgeport, WV
Mar 5, 2014

I was shocked as were probably most people were to hear of Darcie's passing. I knew of Darcie through the Bereaved Parents USA Gatherings at Tampa in 2012 and Sacramento in 2013 as I am a member of the Board of Directors for BPUSA. She will be missed! Prayers to Tony & the Family.

God Bless

Matthew L. Groves

Robyn Plocher
Reinbeck, IA
Mar 5, 2014

My heart goes out to the entire Sims family. Darcie was one of my earliest teachers in the field of bereavement care. Her laughter and her light will continue to shine!! My heart breaks with yours. God bless you all.

Ronald Johnson
San Antonio, TX
Mar 5, 2014

Darcie is the most loving and compassionate friend I have known. It has been an honor and a privelege to have known her through TAPS, where she helped us through Ben's death. I will miss you, Darcie. Tony, you have been the wind beneath her wings and I will pray for you and hope we can stay in touch.

All my love!

Vreni + Henry Lehner, Switzerland
Oberlunkhofen, CH
Mar 5, 2014

Our heart goes out to Darcie's family at this time of deep sorrow. We met Darcie at the 4th and 5th International TCF Gathering. She was a wonderful person with a big heart and a big sence of humour. We will truly miss her.

Garth and Pat Cuddy
Sanford, MB
Mar 4, 2014

Our sincere sympathy to Tony and family. Darcie taught us so much about coping with our son's death. She will be missed!

Carol Caldwell
Spokane, Wa
Mar 4, 2014

Our loss is Heaven's gain...What a wonderful person. We met her at a TAPS weekend and what a blessing. She will be truly missed and forever in our hearts.

Anne Dionne
Lunenburg, MA
Mar 4, 2014

I echo what so many others have already said. Darcie's words and personal testimony have helped me to cope with the devastating loss of my son for the past 13 years. Her words will continue to bring healing to my heart as a bereaved mother for the rest of my life.

God bless you, Darcie! You were truly amazing. There is surely a place in heaven for you!

Alexander E. Peter
Cleveland Hts., OH
Mar 4, 2014

It was through my participation in the Akron Chapter of Compassionate Friends in Ohio and also the support group at Akron Children's Hospital that I became familiar with and heard of Dr. Sims. Last Christmas I viewed her dvd "Handling the Holidays" at one of our meetings. Needless to say, I was both comforted and also drawn to tears by her message. She had such a way of drawing the viewer to her as if she was in the same room. How fortunate for those who knew her personally or at least to have met her while she was still with us. Ironically, I watched her video just last night since I knew I had to return it shortly. In it she mentioned that she had asked a six year old girl to say grace at their holiday meal and it was she who simply prayed, "Thanks, for the little while." We all say thanks for having known, directly or indirectly, Dr. Sims who gave so much to so many. God bless her and her family.

Nancy Pfander
Colorado Springs, CO
Mar 4, 2014

So very sorry that Darci's life has been cut short. She had so much yet to give to those of us that are grieving. I'll cherish the memories of our last time together in Estes Park, CO, in Sept. 2012. I'm so very thankful for all the times I've been able to sit back and absorb what she had to share with us in a way that we could immediately relate to. She was always so "real" and alive and that gave me hope that I too could learn to live again despite the heaviness of my heart.

Barb Macdonald
Port Orchard, WA
Mar 4, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. What an amazing person with an incredible legacy. My thoughts are with you.

Sharon Cook
Westlake, La
Mar 4, 2014

I always enjoyed seeing and hearing Darcie. I know she will have a grand reunion with big A. We will all miss her.

Isabelle Welsh
Toronto, Ontario, Canada, ON
Mar 4, 2014

Dear Tony and Family:

We are deeply saddened at the death of our dear Darcie. Darcie was the presenter at Kane Day for four years. She brought wisdom and laughter to all of the participants.

On a personal level, Darcie supported me through many joys and tears during my husband's illness and death. I treasured her friendship and will miss her special hugs. It was a privilege to be in her life for a little while.

Our sincere sympathy from John Kane and all of the staff at R.S. Kane Funeral Home in Toronto, ON Canada.

Suzanne Nelson
Moorhead, MN
Mar 4, 2014

Darcie -

You were an amazing inspiration to us Gold Star Families. We laughed, we cried, and we loved you for what you gave us. To Darcie's family, thank you for sharing her with us. We will never forget Darcie especially her stuffing toilet paper from one pocket to the next!!

J Waggoner
Eckert, CO
Mar 4, 2014

Farewell, Darcie, travel light and Godspeed. Our profound sympathy to your friends and family.

J Waggoner, Publisher

Bereavement Publications, Living With Loss™

Julia Waldrop
Virden, Il
Mar 4, 2014

You taught me so much after my Son's death.And so many of us that have lost our Children.Rest in Peace Sweet Lady.

Nancy Maruyama
Crystal Lake, IL
Mar 4, 2014

Dearest Darcie, you taught me so much about living after my son died. There are no words to describe the sadness and sense of loss I felt when I heard of your death. I have been truly blessed to have known you. Peace to you, my friend...you are loved, and you will be missed.

Mary Ann Adams Gilmore
Ironton, Oh
Mar 4, 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss

Denise Orsak
Richmond, TX
Mar 4, 2014

I know there are 1,000's of people around the world feeling pain on Darcie's death. She touched so many. But I know the hat she wore for her husband daughter and granddaughter was the most important. I thank you for sharing her with all of us.

Darlene Sandlin
Fort Benning, GA
Mar 4, 2014

So sorry for the loss of a wonderful person. She will truly be missed.

Dora Rodriguez
fort worth, tx
Mar 4, 2014

im on the GM facebook page. i just want to say Darcie will be greatly missed. rip sweet lady.

Lisa M. Butler
Fort Lauderdale, FL
Mar 4, 2014

I would like to take the opportunity to extend my Deepest Sympathy to this family. Dr. Darcie Sims will be missed dearly. I had the opportunity of meeting Dr. Sims at a Hopeful Tears Seminar, and it was Life Changing for me. Her words of Wisdom and Love will forever inspire me and be a part of my Life...We were Blessed to have such an Angel here on Earth...I know she is looking down and smiling...

May God Bless.....

Stacey Pennington and Family
Stafford, VA
Mar 4, 2014

An amazing woman with words of wisdom, a sense of humor, and the ability to truly touch her audience. I am so very thankful to have met Darcie Sims. An inspiration, a lasting impression, a guiding light, a compassionate friend, so many wonderful things that come to mind when I think of Darcie. My prayers are with her family at this time, Tony, Allie, Miss Darci, and Greg...I read her handbook, she even signed it...I'm a crier.

Jill Maynard-Gidner
Bellevue, Mi
Mar 4, 2014

I am on the Grieving Mothers facebook page and I can't say enough about her compassion. R.I.P. Darcie, until we meet again and to her family, I am so very, very sorry for your loss.......sending prayers to all on the wings of Angels...

Jill Maynard-Gidner
Bellevue, Mi
Mar 4, 2014

I am on the Grieving Mothers facebook page and I can't say enough about her compassion. R.I.P. Darcie, until we meet again and to her family, I am so very, very sorry for your loss.......sending prayers to all on the wings of Angels...

Whitney H
Jacksonville, FL
Mar 4, 2014

Thinking of Darcie and her family today.

Debbie Wunderlich
Nesconset, NY
Mar 4, 2014

Fly High Sweet Angel..........If you see my sweet Dustin give him a huge hug for his Momma..........RIP. My thoughts & prayers are with her Family & Friends.....

Ann marie Johnson
Leeds, UK
Mar 4, 2014

You will be sadly missed. At least you will be with your heavenly family now x

Patsy McElroy
French, Ms
Mar 4, 2014

So sorry for her loss.

Stacey Platt
Lancaster, Ca
Mar 4, 2014

May you rest in peace. You were such an inspiration to so many I will always remember your spirit, laughter, kindness and support. Thanks for the little while Darcie thanks!

Always remembered,


Jeri Flandera
Liverpool, NY
Mar 4, 2014

Rip, Darcie we know you will hug all of our children for us.You will be missed.

LuAnn Graham
Rochester Hilld, Mi
Mar 4, 2014

Forever thankful, forever blessed... Thank you

Darcie... Your words of encouragement and the laughs you provided at the TAPS retreat last year impacted my life and helped to heal my wounds. May your family feel peace during this time and know that you are loved by so many

Frani Wurst
Delphos, Phish
Mar 4, 2014

What an inspiration and very special woman .

Starlene Horne
Gastonia, NC
Mar 4, 2014

R I P Dear Angel All my prayers and sympathy for the family and friends

Linda McCardle
Homerville, GA
Mar 4, 2014

RIP Darcie. To her family and friends I am sorry for your loss and pray for comfort and peace to you all.

Debra Turner
Indianapolis , IN
Mar 4, 2014

Rest in peace ....prayers to the family

Crystal Phillips
Bellingham, Wa
Mar 4, 2014

I never personally met this dynamic lady but without her strength and pioneering wisdom I wouldn't have made through some dark days when I first lost my son. When you get to where you're going Darci say hi to Adam for me

Laura Stockwell
Phx, Az
Mar 4, 2014

Run in paradise

Leslie Hutton
Mohegan Lake, NY
Mar 4, 2014

I will always remember the lessons you taught me. Even in the midst of our grief, you could make us laugh. I am sad for those who will never get the chance to meet you. You were amazing in your ability to help all of us in the what ever stage of this journey we were in. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

"we are not here because our child died, we are here because they lived" this will be the one lesson i will remember .

Thanks for the little while

Everett and Carolyn Tagles
Puyallup, WA
Mar 4, 2014

Always on the upbeat. Darcie made the world a better place. If only we could all follow that example. We will miss our smiling neighbor, Darcie.

Ruth Harris
Arvada, CO
Mar 4, 2014

Thoughts and prayers are with all who loved Darcie and all who Darcie loved. She gave us the gift of love and laughter, and gave many of us a path out of the darkness. She will be missed and remembered, for her soul has touched the hearts of everyone she ever came in contact with. Love to you Darcie and thanks for the little while....your Broccoli Ruth

Lois Swope
Stillwater, MN
Mar 4, 2014

I discovered a wonderful group of people after the death of my daughter Karly. One of them was Darcie who I never got to meet in person. I watched and read anything I could find of hers online and on DVD. I found comfort in her words. I know she knew how I felt. She gave me insights into loss and grief and most of all hope. Thank you Darcie for turning your own personal loss into blessing others. Thank you for the laughter and the tears. I will meet you one day. I am confident of that.

Much love to her family and dear friends.

Mary Henderson
Big Praire, OH
Mar 4, 2014

I want to extend my deepest sympathy to Darcie's family. I was so saddened to hear of her death. I heard her speak at the TCF regional conference in Frankfort, KY three years ago. She made me laugh, made me cry, and taught me so much. All I can say is, "Thanks for a Little While."

Liz Boenig
College Station, TX
Mar 4, 2014

I heard Darcie speak at several Bereaved Parents Gatherings. I was so impressed by her energetic enthusiasm for life and the sincere enthusiastic encouragement she gave to others. My deepest condolences to her family and friends.

Blaine Elder
Kenai, AK
Mar 3, 2014

May Her Memory Be Eternal!!!

Bob & Kitty Conant
Valencia, CA
Mar 3, 2014

To the family,

We have loved this woman as a person and as a mentor trainer with TAPS. We will miss her humor, her spirit, and her tender loving concern for us all.

Her light will shine bright through all of those she trained and loved. May your family rest in the knowledge that she led an awesome life and left an indelible mark on all who knew her.

We grieve because we loved.

Merle Daar Bergeon
Green Bay, Wi
Mar 3, 2014

Darcie made a big difference in my life. She will be greatly missed.

Janice Lehman
Beavercreek, OH
Mar 3, 2014

Tony, Allie, Darci, Greg and Deborah,

Sending my thoughts along with all the other people who have been impacted by Darcie's words. When I first started attending TCF after my son's death, I was numb. The first book I took from the TCF library was "Why are the casseroles always tuna?" and thus I 'met' Darcie Sims. Later I heard her speak at several TCF conferences & a special International TCF conference in Vancouver, BC. Thank you for your family's dedication to helping bereaved people. Her words helped us all & we are grateful for her life well-lived.

Janice Lehman
Beavercreek, OH
Mar 3, 2014

Tony, Allie, Darci, Greg and Deborah,

Sending my thoughts along with all the other people who have been impacted by Darcie's words. When I first started attending TCF after my son's death, I was numb. The first book I took from the TCF library was "Why are the casseroles always tuna?" and thus I 'met' Darcie Sims. Later I heard her speak at several TCF conferences & a special International TCF conference in Vancouver, BC. Thank you for your family's dedication to helping bereaved people. Her words helped us all & we are grateful for her life well-lived.

Trish Powers
Arlington, VA
Mar 3, 2014

Darcie, I have a feeling you are rather amused by all of this fuss ;-). But you should know the "fuss" is because we are doing exactly what you have always told us: we are remembering the love. The love you shared with us, the love you helped us recapture and recover, the love that gave us so much life and joy.

My deepest condolences and heartfelt sympathy go out to your family, and to your extended family of friends, colleagues, and those whose lives you affected and often saved. The world is a far better place because you were in it; it has a gaping wound that will shape it for years to come.

There is a "contemporary Christian" song of maybe 20 or so years ago, by Ray Boltz, the refrain of which is going through my head. Regardless of one's conviction, I think the sentiment can be appreciated here: "Thank you, for giving to the Lord. I am a life that was changed; thank you, for giving to the Lord...I am so glad you gave."

Thank you for GIVING, Darcie - may you take your rest now.

William & Cathy Wigington
Chubbuck, ID
Mar 3, 2014

We will miss you speaking at the conferences, We met you and had our picture taken with you 6 months after our son died. You helped us more than you can ever imagine with your talk and have helped me with leading our group. You are such a wonderful woman and will be greatly missed. There will never be anybody like you in the whole world. Our sympathies go out to your wonderful family. It is good to know you are with your wonderful son now and he gets to have his great mother with him. God bless you until we can hear your stories in heaven.

French L. Smith
Monroe, LA
Mar 3, 2014

My heart goes out to Darcie's family at this time of sorrow. I will always remember the beautiful soul of Darcie Sims. Our TCF chapter benefited from the many videos we watched of Darcie and her humor in helping us laugh again. She was such a tremendous help in our grief journey and we will always be indebted to her. May God rest her soul.

Annemieke Stalcup
Big Bear Lake, CA
Mar 3, 2014

Darcie, thanks for the little while with a huge impact...

Many hugs and prayers to Tony and family.

kory rhodes
eastlake, oh
Mar 3, 2014

I have to say she was an amazing person. She helped me through all my pain and helped me understand how others felt. She will be missed by all who knew her. She had a way of seeking into your heart and staying there.

Ingrid Seunarine
Brooklyn, NY
Mar 3, 2014

Condolences to the family. My prayers and thoughts are with you all during this difficult period.

Darcie has left a wonderful legacy to all of us who work with the bereaved. I was privileged to hear her presentations in many cities, and indeed honored to have met her. She will be greatly missed by all in the Thanatology arena.

Thank you Darcie for your presentations, they were always

uplifting and humorous. You would want us to mourn your loss, but also celebrate your life, a life that was lived and loved.. Big A is waiting for his mom with open arms.

Dale Grgurich
Troutville, VA
Mar 3, 2014

I heard you speak twice, and I am moved to this day by your insight compassion & Love. Your came through and helped me after the death of my son. I still carry your message.

Rest in Peace.

Linda L. Frost
Battle Creek, MI
Mar 3, 2014

Prayers and comfort to Darcie's family. Her memory will live on forever in the hearts of all TCF members. I can't imagine her happiness seeing her son in heaven! Hugs to all.

Mary Hullinger
San Antonio, Te
Mar 3, 2014

Dear Tony, Allie, Greg and Miss Darcie: We will miss Darcie more than words can express. She was a dear, dear friend and we loved her more than any words can express. Our yearly trips together and our monthly phone calls were always special and thoroughly enjoyed. I'm sure all of you have wonderful memories and will share them often. She was and is an angel to many, many people far and wide. May you have the strength to handle the coming months. We will continue to pray for you.

Love, Mary

Dr Rose M Lobo Fernandes
Stoughton, Ma
Mar 3, 2014

I will miss our monthly phone calls as well as our yearly meetings with Mary. Tony,Allie please call Mary and Rose when you are ready to share our loving memories of our dear friend and sister. I hope to see and spend time with you and your family as I know Darcie would want us too remember. Much love to all of you and all of your family .Little Darcie and Greg I did not forget you .When we get a chance I would love to tell you how much Darcie loved and treasured all of you. Much Love and Blessings. Rose

Marcia F. Alig
Princeton Junction, NJ
Mar 3, 2014

My deepest condolences to Tony, Allie, Greg and Deborah. Darci and I became friends while we both served on the TCF Board. We worked, laughed and cried together. Although we maintained our friendship over the successive decades, I have always held that time we shared together as a special blessing in my life.

In loving memory,


Scott and Mary Mueller
Cedarburg, WI
Mar 3, 2014

Tony and family,

Our hearts are so saddened with the sudden death of Darcie.

She was an amazing human being with a heart that kept on giving. Had the pleasure of seeing her back in October here in Milwaukee, WI. She presented beautifully to a room full and I got one last big hug from the "best of the best. God bless and take care, and as Darcie would say "Let love be what you remember most".

Susan and Gary Chan
Topeka, KS
Mar 3, 2014

We were half way across the world in New Zealand when we heard of Darcie's death, but we felt connected in our grief by all those who loved and admired her. Her kindness, wit and compassion towards so many bereaved people over the years is a true legacy of a person who could make you believe that you would survive your loss and learn to live and laugh again. In the depths of my new grief following the death of my daughter Rachael, Darcie's words had a profound effect on the course my grief journey would take. I can hear her still telling me, "Letting go of the pain doesn't mean letting go of the love." From that point on I knew I could move forward in my life taking my love for my daughter with me and not feel guilty that I wasn't in pain every moment of every day. God bless you,Darcie, for the love you gave; for the time you took with each person; for your caring, commitment and compassion. With love you are remembered. In memory you live. We send our deepest sympathies to Tony, Allie, Greg and Miss Darci.

Naz Montrond
Martinsburg, Wv
Mar 3, 2014

It was so fun meeting you!! You made me smile when I was crying on your

shoulder at TAPS.. Your always in my heart R.I.P mrs.darcie

I love and miss you

Muriel Arnett
Portland, OR
Mar 3, 2014

Dear Tony and family,

It is difficult to find any appropriate words to that can bring you comfort at this time. I want convey my sincerest condolences to you all in the passing of Darcie. I am so, so sorry. It is such a devastating loss to you and the entire world. She was such a hero to all of us in Compassionate Friends and many, many other groups of those who had experienced the death of a loved one.

It was Darcie who taught me about grief. It was Darcie who came up with the words to explain what I felt. It was Darcie who listened and confirmed that what I felt was OK and normal. I attended many Compassionate Friends conferences and groups over many years and I always looked forward my “Darcie hugs”. Darcie taught me to never say “Goodbye”. I can only say, “I love you Darcie. A job well done. You will be missed by so many.”

Muriel Arnett,

Portland, Oregon

Donna and Ralph Goodrich
Charlotte, Nc
Mar 3, 2014

We met Darcie at our forst National Conference and what a difference she made in our grief journey. Over the years, she became like family to us and we used her stories over and over agIn at our Chapter meetings. She is and alwYs be the face of TCF. You are all I. Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you grieve for your sweet Wife, Mother and Grandmother.

Susan Rhodes
Mar 3, 2014

Dear Tony and Family,

Words cannot express the emotions we all feel right now, Darcie was so many things to so many people. You are all in my heart and my prayers, thank you so much for sharing her with all of us. Hugs, love and blessings to you all. RIP Darcie,

Till we meet again...

Cindy Lanfry
Baton Rouge, LA
Mar 3, 2014

My heart is heavy for Darcie's family as well as her other families that she meant so much to and gave so willingly of her time to help. May the warm memories of Darcie bring comfort and strength to all who loved her and may we carry on her incredible journey in the name of love to continue to help all who are in pain over the loss of a loved one! May she fly high with the angels as she has joined "Big A" and I pray that we all will Remember the Love!

Marty and Renda Weaver
Salina, Ks
Mar 3, 2014

Darcie was an inspiration to us all! She will be missed and thought of often! I was always amazed of how she could remember your name, when you met her for the second time. She taught us, and many others, that the beauty of our children was the memories they left us with. My wife and I truly believe that Darcie was a friend to us! Our prayers and thoughts go out to you Tony and the family during this tragic and yet unique time. Thanks for the years of support! The toilet paper roll is being well used!

Ann Walsh
Orrtanna, Pa
Mar 3, 2014

Darcie was a wonderful speaker, supporter, mentor, and above all, friend. She touched many peoples' lives in so many ways. Thoughts of her bring smiles to our faces. She will be missed and always loved.

Joyce Calland
Urbana, Oh
Mar 3, 2014

I did not know Darcie personally, but heard her speak at a Compassionate Friends regional conference in Frankfort, KY. She was wonderfully insightful and helped me to take a different look at my own grief. She was able to make me laugh and that was no easy thing at that time in my life. I will forever treasure the help she gave to me.

Lori Stahl
Milwaukee, WI
Mar 3, 2014

Darcie was an incredible teacher. I will be forever grateful to all the Darcie gave me not only in the field of grief, but in friendship and support!

Beverly Ruane
Stafford, Va
Mar 3, 2014

I first met Darcie and heard her speak at the 2011 Gathering in Reston, Va. Darcie held my attention as spoke about her experience. Her words of comfort, encouragement and humor told us that anyone can get through their grief. You will be truly missed, Darcie. Thank you. My condolences to all the family and friends. You will be in my prayers. Praying God will comfort you.

Sylvia Norman Windham
Dallas, Tx
Mar 3, 2014

I am so grateful that God brought Darci into my life. I met her at TAPS in Washington, DC in 2004. It had been the first time since my husband, CDR Michael Norman, passed in 2002, that she gave me the ability to smile, laugh and cry all at the same time. Darci thank you for sharing your love with all military widows and families. We will always love you!

The Michael Flagg Family
Millwood, VA
Mar 3, 2014

Our love and prayers go out to you all. We love you Darcie! Thank you for your tremendous support at our weakest moments. xoxo

Monte & Tammy Wolf
Lindsborg, KS
Mar 3, 2014

We don't know why, but we know you lie in the sky with the big man who has a plan. I know to well that no words will take away the pain so let me just say that we are all wrapping our arms around you as a whole & holding your family like Darcie held so many when we needed her. Peace & love from the Wolfs!!

Christina Bindi
Oak Grove, Mo
Mar 3, 2014

The Angels of us all, wow what a greeting in Heaven. Thanks for the little while.

Darlene Dusza
Sellersville, PA
Mar 3, 2014

You will forever be remembered by those who you have helped through the grief and loss of a child and many others who you have inspired. Rest In Peace Darci.

Mary Gene & Robert Ryan
Ventura , CA
Mar 2, 2014

Tony, Allie, Greg and Darci our prayers, thoughts and hugs of love are with you. Bobby & I were very blessed to have Darcie, Tony and Allie as our neighbors in San Antonio when we were newlyweds (years before Grief Inc). Bobby at the time was in Medical School in New Orleans, LA so we were not together for two years. Darcie knew when I was going to be alone on a weekend or when Bobby was visiting. I will always remember Darcie inviting me over for dinner and allowing me to be part of the "Sims family" when Bobby was in. Allie loved to come visit me, but Darcie made sure she knew not to visit our house when the garage door was closed. Darcie was such a great friend. Know Darcie will always be with you -- feel her love each day.

Tiffany Lewis
Moreno Valley, CA
Mar 2, 2014

Darcie we all know your up there counseling our loved ones on missing us. Getting them ready. Rest gracefully!!!

Allen Klein
San Francisco, CA
Mar 2, 2014

Darcie had a large presence with a big heart and a big sense of humor. She will be greatly missed, especially in the death & dying arena.

Allen Klein, author of

Learning to Laugh When You Feel Like Crying

Nancy Weil
Buffalo, NY
Mar 2, 2014

Darcie was my mentor and my friend. She has been there for me from the moment I began working in the field of grief. She continues to inspire me in the work that I do. Darcie inspired and touched so many people's lives. If the mark of a life well lived is to know that you have made a difference, that you have loved and been loved and that the world is a bit dimmer in your absence, then Darcie lived incredibly well. You will be deeply missed, my friend.

Rosemary Ravella
Boonton, NJ
Mar 2, 2014

Did you ever know you were my hero?

You were the wind beneath my wings.

Fly, fly, so high again in the wind.

You are now touching the sky.

Thank God for you.

You were the wind beneath my wings.

You made me able to laugh again,after my only child,

Arthur III was killed , 9 years young in 1986.

You will be truly missed, but your words, wisdom and love that you gave to all of the bereaved will never be forgotten.

Kiss and hug my Arthur until I get there.

Martha Suarez
San Diego, CA
Mar 2, 2014

Darcy's trademark humor intertwined with her messages of hope and love during our darkest moments is the legacy she left with us. What a remarkable woman. I hope I will meet her again, someday. Sending that same hope and love to her beloved family-it is because of your love and support of her work that she was able to be an angel to so many.

Betty Medley
Owensboro, KY
Mar 2, 2014

My thoughts and prayers are with you Tony and your family. Thank you for sharing your wife, mom and grandma with so many people. I was with her in December and all she could talk about was each of you and her love that she has for you. She taught me so much in working with grief counseling and I will miss her so much as I know so many people over the world will. Thank you for "the little while" I love you Darcie!

Deborah Jones
chesapeake, va
Mar 2, 2014

Heaven has a new angel. She will be watching over all her family and friends and all TAPS families. She will be deeply missed.

Adam Cooper
Covington, GA
Mar 2, 2014

Darci will be greatly missed. She was a champion for the bereaved and her humor and wit and love for others defined her. I will always owe a great debt to her for what she taught me. My heart and prayers go out to Tony and the rest of the family during this time.

Bonnie & Richard Szczepaniak
Enid, OK
Mar 2, 2014

We are proud to say we knew Darcie. Darcie has taught us how to live after the deaths of our son and daughter. Her easy personality and her humor has taught us to never remember that our children lived. He message is that it is ok to grieve, but do not forget that they lived and to celebrate their lives. Now we plan to celebrate the fact that we knew Darcie. Darcie we miss you. Our life is poorer that you are gone, but we are richer because we knew you.

Virginia Jones
Aztec, NM
Mar 2, 2014

Darci was one of those rare humans that are so unique, that they are a phenomenon of their own. She was the Darci phenomenon!

How was it possible to make grieving parents laugh - she did it.

How was it possible that such a tiny person could fit such a huge heart/spirit - Darci did it.

Because her spirit was so enormous, she will be with us for a long, long, time.

Thank you, Darci.

Heather Miller
Maple Grove, Mn
Mar 2, 2014

On behalf of your family in Minnesota we are sad to hear about the loss of Darcie. She was a wonderful person and will be missed by all.

Jill, Madeline & Alex LaMorie
Alexandria, VA
Mar 2, 2014

The kids and I first met Darcie at the 2008 TAPS Philadelphia Survivor Seminar and Good Grief Camp. I got to spend the several years working with Darcie and being a person to whom she provide comfort and hope. Thank you Darcie for your laughter and love. You taught the kids and I how to laugh again. Your sudden loss will be profoundly felt to all those you touched and inspired. We are forever grateful that you touched our family and taught us how to live with loss and embrace love…..you left a deep impression on this world and all our hearts. May you Rest in Love and Laughter….

Deanna Phillips
McKinney, Tx
Mar 2, 2014

To the friends and loved ones of Mrs. Darci-

My prayers and thoughts are with you. I am not sure she could pick me out of a crowd, but she taught me how to breathe, when I didn't think I would breathe again. She taught me how to get out of bed; how to walk again; and eventually how to laugh again. She taught me how to live a new normal for myself and daughter. Thank you for sharing her with me and the entire TAPS family. I am forever grateful and blessed to have known her.

Rick & Peg Dugan
Framingham, MA
Mar 2, 2014

We first met Darci as a TCF-Workshop presenter in 1985, in Buffalo, NY. A dynamic lady who let us know that humor is a necessary part of our lives and we mustn't shut it out of our lives because our son, Larry, had died in 1982.. At later TCF National Conferences we kept running into Darci and came to relish her speaking style, lessons in living with and through our grief - delighting a MA State Trooper in Boston in 2005 by demonstrating a Darci story about TCF groups needing to touch knees, regardless of how they felt about how they were dressed (we got the trooper to take our picture with 8-knees touching. Thank you Darci, Tony and family for sharing and helping us to accept the love we felt - and hugging every chance we have - without reservations.

Tony, we've added you to our prayers with hope you are healing also.

Love and forever hugs - Rick & Peg Dugan

Gayle Brady
KIingston, NH
Mar 2, 2014

Darcie, you were an incredible, selfless woman who help so many of us in our grief journey. You will never be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with your family here on earth.

Thank you so much for being there for us.

Carol & Louie Mikasobe
Kapolei, Hi
Mar 2, 2014

I pray for God's loving grace over Darcie's family in their time of need. Darcie gave the world an understanding of their grief and pain so they could turn it into love, smiles, laughter, hugs, and fond memories. She will be missed.

Lis Olsen
Kaneohe, HI
Mar 2, 2014

I will be there to bid ALOHA to our Angel Darcie.

Kathie Kelly
King George, VA
Mar 2, 2014

I am so blessed to have know Darcie. I met Darcie 15 years ago after I lost my only son Kevin Robert. Thanks to her love and hugs she gave me hope and taught me how I can survive the worst lost a parent can ever endure. Because of Darcie tons of bereaved families have hope and are surviving the loss of children. Thank you Tony, Allie, Darci, Greg and Deborah for sharing this amazing beautiful angel who was here on earth. My thoughts and prayers are with you all and I wish so much that I could be there Tuesday in person, but I am there in spirit and a candle will be lit. To Darcie I say Thanks for the little while!! You will be forever in our hearts. RIP Sweet Angel until we meet again. Love Kathie - Kevin's Momma

Don and Kathie Oberg
Everett, Wa
Mar 2, 2014

Kathie and I will greatly miss sharing thoughts at oh so many WSFDA functions and conventions. We always enjoyed her way of turning negative into positives with such zest

Susanne Osolin
Phoenix, AZ
Mar 2, 2014

Dearest Darcie. Words can not even begin to express how much I will miss you. Thank you so much for the work you did with Parents of Murdered Children. The world is a better place for having had you in it......"Thanks for the Little While."

Dorothy A. Flores
Truro, IA
Mar 2, 2014

May the beautiful memories of your wife and mother, which you all sustain as a family, comfort each of you in your loss. I heard Darcie talk on two or three occasions at The Compassionate Friends national conferences-- she was wonderful in helping me learn to live with the death of my three year-old daughter. Blessings to each of you.

Scott & Lynn Woll
Tacoma, WA
Mar 2, 2014

We are saddened to learn of Darcie's passing. We met her many years ago soon after our son passed away from SIDS and was so moved by a speech she gave at a conference that once I became State President of our SIDS Chapter we invited her to give the keynote at one of our annual "In Celebration" events in Tacoma, WA. I have always lovingly referred to Darcie as the "Erma Bombeck of Grief"......truly down to earth, extremely compassionate and hugely funny.

We count ourselves one of the lucky ones to have crossed her path in this life. She has brought much healing and relief to so many hurting families over her years of devotion.......we can only hope and believe that she is now comforting those who we grieve for until we are all reunited. As she says.....may we remember her love.

Unsure if we will be able to attend her services, but we hope and trust that they will be filled with only positive, and humorous stories of her life...she would have wanted it that way.

Karl Snepp
Redmond, WA
Mar 2, 2014

Tony – Sue and I are stunned and saddened, along with everyone else. You and Allie, Big A, Greg and Miss Darci have been hugged in our hearts often during these past few days. Darcie, if you’re reading this, thanks for helping us along our grief journey, and especially for helping us in so many ways to help others. I’m really ticked that I never got around to pitching you this idea I saw on the Internet a while ago:

Maria O Morales
Arlington, TX
Mar 2, 2014

Thru her books I learned to be joyous again, after the death of my only child.

May her memory and joyous personality sustain you during this time, and always.

Patsy Hicks
Seymour, MO
Mar 1, 2014

She was a great Lady, a great speaker on grief. She helped me a lot.

Pheobe M. Best
Mansfield, Mo
Mar 1, 2014

My heart goes out to her family, she was one great lady that I had the fortune to meet in D.C. She was a ship on the horizon for many who were on a deserted island.

Richard & Pam Nomura
Seattle, WA
Mar 1, 2014

We are so sorry to hear about your great loss. We're glad to have met Darcie, and know that she will be sorely missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Pamela Jayne Shelton
Roswell, Ga
Mar 1, 2014

Darcie my first cousin along w/ Debbie. I am shocked will miss our communication, and always remember our fun younger years at the Lake House. We always though of the Lake House as our home, because of the many moves our families made. My Summer memory was your Dad making us into sandwiches at bed time, that was so much fun to me.

You will always be in my thought, and prayers for your family. See you around the bend. Love, Pam

Kay Bevington Alive Alone, Inc .
Van Wert, OH
Mar 1, 2014

Rodney and I first met Darcie in the 1980's at a TCF Conference where everyone was talking about the 'funny lady with the crazy hats'. Yes, Darcie wore many hats in her life but she's best known, in the bereavement world, as that phenomenal speaker who knew the exact moment to take her audience from tears to laughter with her humor.

I personally witnessed Darcie sharing her love aned compassion with bereaved parents in one on one situations. She was well known as a speaker/workshop presenter/writer/ counselor but she was also your friend and confidante.

I will miss my conversations and interactions with Darcie and the bereavement world will miss her creativity and contributions to their healing journeys.

Austin,"Big A", is now happy to have his mommy "home".

Life is a dance, Thanks for accomjpanying uis on that dance, Darcie, if only for a little while.

Linda Pountney
West Hartford, CT
Mar 1, 2014

Darcie was a special lady with a mission. At many Twinless Twins Support Group conferences, she brought us from tears to laughter, giving us permission to grieve. Always encouraging us to remember the love, she personally helped me to let the joy seep back into my life. She had a well-honed gift earned from personal experience. Darcie inspired so many of us twins and will live on through the many gifts she gave us over the years.

Thank you Darcie... my prayers for her beloved family, who she cherished and spoke about often.

Bonnie Carroll
Anchorage, AK
Mar 1, 2014

Darcie Sims gave this world the gift of hope and healing, taught us to remember love above all else, and shared joy in the midst of tremendous grief. At the end of each dinner at TAPS she would share her wonderful story of Thanksgiving dinner, ending with the prayer, "Thanks for the little while." Darcie, we now thank you for the little while - it wasn't long enough, but we will forever be grateful we shared this time with you! We love you always!

Jill Stephenson
Rosemount, MN
Mar 1, 2014

The day the news broke of Darcie's death, the sun was shining bright and beautiful. I just know it was Darcie's arrival in Heaven that turned up the brightness. What a wonderful, bright light she shared with countless people for so many years. The legacy she leaves us is nothing but pure love and hearts filled with joy. Although she is no longer physically here to teach, there is no question the value of what she has taught is endless and will carry us all to eternity. Rest easy wonderful lady, you are loved and will be missed terribly. I can imagine the joy you must now have in being reunited with your son, father and other loved ones. With love to all who mourn.


Anita Breen
Delphic, Is
Mar 1, 2014

Darcie's words and message gave me great comfort after losing my daughter. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.

Marguerite O'Connor
Glenview, IL
Feb 28, 2014

So sorry for your loss. Darcie's presentations were helpful, authentic & memorable. Darcie positively imprinted many people...a great legacy.

Chuck Prestwood
Starkville, MS
Feb 28, 2014

Helen Keller said it best ...

""What we have once enjoyed

We can never lose,

All that we love deeply

Becomes a part of us."

And hoping that the memories of thousands and thousands that will always carry Darcie "as part" of themselves bring you solace and comfort. My heart hurts with you.

I met Darcie in the early 80s when I attended my first TCF National Conference in Chicago... She taught me it was OK to smile.. even laugh..to find some joy in life after a child has died..... and I've never stopped/looked back since.

No one can replace her and I regret that newly bereaved will not benefit from knowing her.. even though her videos/tapes, etc, will continue to help...

Thank you Darcie... Rest in much deserved peace and enjoy your reunion with Big A.

Rosemarie Coulthard
Sterling, Il
Feb 28, 2014

my life goals of wanting to be a grief counselor grew when I met Darcie. She was a wonderful woman who showed how to have strength with tears and that grief doesn't have to rule you. If you have lost someone it is your place to grieve and also grow. She empowered so many and I am so very thankful that I was one. God bless her family now and forever.

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