Paul James Deethardt
September 30, 1932 - February 18, 2018
Obituary
On Sunday, February 18, 2018, Paul J. Deethardt succumbed to al long sever-year struggle with kidney failure.
Paul was born on September 30, 1932 in Mishawaka, Indiana, to parents John F. and Helen Deethardt. He was one of three brother and three half-sister. Paul was united in marriage to Carolyn J. Cates on December 25, 1952 at the First Baptist Church in Mishawaka, Indiana. He graduated from Mishawaka High School in 1951. He attended Indiana University in South Bend, Indiana, and later graduated from Wichita State University in 1983 with an Associate degree in Manufacturing Engineering. Paul was employed by Studebaker Auto and Doge Manufacturing (Reliance Electric) in South Bend, Indiana. He worked for the Boeing Company in Wichita, KS, and Seattle, WA., where one of his projects involved work on the current in-use Air Force One. He retired from Boeing after 30 years. Paul served his country during the Korean War (conflict) for two years (volunteered for the draft) from 1952-1954 with the 96th Armored Artillery Battalion, 79th Tank Platoon with the rank of Corporal and served six years in the Reserves. Paul loved airplanes, traveling, basketball, football, going to the ocean and family gatherings.
He was a member of Christ Church in Federal Way, WA, for many years. He faithfully served the Lord from his young teen years in Mishawaka, IN, as president of his church’s youth group and then throughout his life in my roles as an usher, deacon, Sunday school teacher, choir member and youth leader.
Paul is survived by his wife, Carolyn in Federal Way, WA, of 66 years and two daughters, Cheryl A. Logan and Deborah L. Lohman (Russell Lohman) He has three grandson: Jason Lohman (Racheal), Justin Lohman (Katy), Benjamin Logan (Anne) and one granddaughter: Rachel Maygra (Daron). He has on great grandson, Jake Logan and seven great granddaughters: Lily, Ashley, Kendall, Bristal, Paityn Lohman; Charlotte Maygra and Cora Logan. And, we can’t forget his faithful friend and companion Scottish Terrier, Murphy.
Paul was preceded in death by his son, Stephen A. Deethardt October 13, 2011, and will be laid to rest with his Papa and Buddy at the Tahoma National Cemetery, arrangements made by Bonney-Watson Funeral Home in Federal Way, WA.
Paul was a kind and gentle man, loving husband, and great father. “Well done my good and faithful servant! Welcome home.” – No more pain and suffering.
I miss you so much dad!
Love you!
Deb
My heart grows heavy not seeing you dad .
I know that you are in a far better place than I am but it still
Makes me miss our time together that we had on earth . I love a miss you until I see you again Dad!!
Your lonely daughter without you,
Deb xxoo
WELL MY DARLING TODAY I PUT MY TWO MOST FAVORITE MEN TO REST TOGETHER.
I WAS AND AM PROUD TO BE YOUR WIFE…
I AM PROUD TO BE THE MOTHER OF YOUR SON..HE WAS VERY SPECIAL AND I FEEL WE WERE A VERY SPECIAL YOUNG COUPLE IN 1954 TO BE GIVEN A SPECIAL LITTLE BOY TO LOVE AND RAISE..YOU ARE A VERY SPECIAL DAD..PAPA AND WILL NEVER BE OUT OF MY MIND AND HEART..MY LOVE WAS FOREVER EVEN BEYOND THE GRAVE..
THE LAST DAYS OF YOUR LIFE WAS SPENT WITH US TOGETHER…EVEN THO IT WAS VERY HARD YOU BECAUSE YOU WERE SO SICK….
BUT WE TRAVELED ALONG SINGING OUR SONG …SIDE BY SIDE…ALWAYS AND FOREVER YOURS………….CAROL
Yesterday was Fathers Day..Murphy and I took flowers out..
It was a beautiful day weather wise otherwise it was not a good day..
I miss you and Stephen so very much somedays I cry all day ..this was one of those days..it continues to today 6/18 four months ago you said good bye to me..i have been lost ever since..just seem to be drifting around with no real purpose..I pray this will get easier..i know you are both in a much better place than I am..
Don’t give up on me.. I will be there when the Lord see fit..
Till then BIG BEAR HUGS AND KISSES ARE SENT YOUR WAY EVERYDAY…..Love Me
Miss you Dad!!!
Miss you Stephen!!
It has been 6 long months since we said good by..
I miss you more every day….
I am trying my best to get thru this sad time in my life..
Part of me has gone,you and Stephen…
I pray every day for the Lord’s strength to get me thru the day..
Waiting…………….Carol
BABE.
I KEEP THIS SONG IN MY HEART EACH DAY
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IF YOU GET THERE BEFORE I DO
I READ A NOTE MY GRANDMA WROTE IN 1923
GRANDPA KEPT IT IN HIS COAT AND SHOWED IT ONCE TO ME,HE SAID BOY YOU MIGHT NOT UNDERSTAND,BUT A LONG LONG TIME AGO GRANDMAS DADDY DID NOT LIKE ME NONE,BUT I LOVED YOUR GRANDMA SO..
WE HAD THIS CRAZY PLAN TO RUN AWAY TOGETHER
GET MARRIED IN THE FIRST TOWN WE CAME TO AND LIVE FOREVER…BUT NAILED TO THE TREE WHERE WE WERE SUPPOSED TO MEET,INSTEAD I FOUND THIS NOTE AND THIS IS WHAT IT SAID………
IF YOU GET HERE BEFORE I DO DON’T GIVE UP ON ME.I’LL MEET YOU WHEN MY CHORES ARE DONE,DON’T KNOW HOW LONG I’LL BE
BUT NOT GOING TO LET YOU DOWN DARLING WAITE AND SEE AND BETWEEN NOW AND THEN TILL I SEE YOU AGAIN I’II BE LOVING YOU…
LOVE ME
I READ THOSE WORDS JUST HOURS BEFORE GRAND MA PASSED AWAY..
IN THE DOORWAY OF THE CHURCH WHERE GRANDPA AND I STOPPED TO PRAY..I KNOW I HAD NEVER SEEN HIM CRY IN ALL MY 15 YEARS….BUT AS HE SAID THOSE WORDS HIS EYES FILLED WITH TEARS..
SO PAUL ,EVEN THO YOULEFT BEFORE ME .. DON’T GIVE UP ON ME ..I’LL BE THERE WHEN MY CHORES ARE THRU.NOT GONNA LET YOU DOWN ,DARLING WAITE AND SEE AND BETWEEN YOU AND ME TILL I SEE YOU AGAIN……….
I WILL BE LOVING YOU
LOVE ME.
DEC 25,1952 WHAT A BEAUTIFUL DAY (OUR WEDDING DAY}..
DEC.25 20,2017 OUR LAST ANNIVERSARY TOGETHER..
DEC.25,2018 OUR FIRST CHRISTMAS APART IN 68 YEARS..
MY LOVE FOR YOU IS EVEN STRONGER THAN IT WAS IN 1952..MY BEST FRIED..,MY BUDDY ,MY SOULMATE AND WONDERFUL HUSBAND…..
Till I see you again…………HERE’S LOVING YOU …….Me